Before you hire someone, you need to know what the site is programmed in. Is it PHP (look at the extension on the end of the webpage "blah-blah.com/blah-blah.PHP" means it was programmed in PHP).
It would be also good to know if a free application was used.
Are all free message boards. All have anti spam modifications (known as 'MODS') that you can insert to do just what you want.
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